Having been a born again Christian. For just for 5+ years, I’ve experienced and witnessed people who are really hard on themselves due you to wrong beliefs about God. When we believe erroneously that God is hard on our failures, we will be hard on people around us and ourselves!
People who are hard on themselves cannot forgive themselves for the mistakes they have made in the past. As a result, they punish themselves unconsciously. Through hurt, cutting or killing themselves, bingeing on food, falling into substance abuse. Others spiral into sexual appetites and spiral out of control, hurting not only themselves but their loved ones too all because they respond to an instinct to keep punishing themselves unconsciously. This keeps them in a cycle of unforgiveness and guilt which leads to more destructive behaviours.
This vicious cycle of defeat can be overcome by realising that God’s heart is not in condemnation but in forgiveness. And that our lives can be turned around no matter our past, all for His glory!
For I will be merciful toward their iniquities, and I will remember their sins no more.”